...Why People Are So Eager To Judge Others Without Taking Into Consideration That They Not Be As Stingy As You Thought They Were, Based From That One Off Experience Where They Refused To Lend You $5 For The Bus

I know I am being somewhat hypocritical with this topic, but I try my best not to stick to judgements of people which I had made from a few experiences.


As we all know, being human and all (I certainly hope that you are), we are very quick at making snap judgements about other people - whether it is people we see on the street or the people that we spend a lot of time with every week. "That woman over there has 13 chihuahuas in her handbag, therefore that must mean she's posh" or "That guy in my class said something inappropriate and stupid, therefore that must mean he's a douche". Sadly, we are unable to stop making these snap judgements - it is in our nature. It is our way of recognising and categorising the different types of people we see and meet.

However, just because we make these judgements, doesn't necessarily make them true and it takes a lot more than a few experiences and stories to shape a person and their personality. Therefore, I am rather confused as to why some people are so stubborn and narrow as to not realise that there is more to a person than just what they see and hear from day to day conversation. It takes time and effort to establish a clear understanding of someone and it's just kinda sad that not everyone is willing to give that a go.

I know people who have been judged by others the moment they opened their mouths to say something. Yeah, it may not have been the most thought out comments of all time, but some people are just not good with first impressions. Some people find it difficult to not be themselves and do not spend their time on worrying about how to make everyone else like them. For all you know the person who swore at you when you accidentally slammed a door in their face could be someone who is extremely nice, but agitated easily. For all you know that homeless person sleeping on that park bench became homeless not because they are lazy and uneducated, but because someone screwed them over. That someone could may have well been a grateful, beautiful girl on the outside with a heart of poison and stone in the inside. You don't know. You don't know unless you actually try to understand them. So why stick to your attitude toward someone when it is based on a superficial glance or a crude comment?

With that being said, it is impossible to take the time to get to know everyone. To assess their character and to decide what you actually think of them. But what you can do is understand that there may be parts of a person that you might not ever get to see and they are not entirely who you think they are. For better or for worse. Unfortunately, for all you who are amazing in the inside but not as appealing with looks, lacking in basic social skills, bad at making first impressions or have poor surface qualities that everyone picks up on, that's just the way life is. But hopefully you'll know people who have picked up on the idea that you are so much more than what they see.

So next time bear that in mind before you judge that classmate who thinks of himself as better than everyone else or your friends' mother who looks like a witch.

There are a lot of reasons why this topic is important. I must admit, it is rather personal in the sense that I, as with most people I'd assume, have qualities (both good and bad) within, which are difficult to express or show  to everyone I know. I'm not going to judge you, so don't judge me.